Let’s Talk About What’s Inside Us - Our Unspoken Dreams
We all carry dreams inside us.
Some are loud and obvious, while others are quiet, vague, or buried under years of ‘being too busy’ or always put on the back burner.
This Connected Couples conversation is about those quieter dreams, the unspoken ones.
You might be surprised to find out your partner has been holding onto a dream you didn’t know about. Or maybe you’ve kept something inside, a yearning, a childhood dream, and you’ve not shared it before, for one reason or another.
First, let’s take a look at what dreams look like. They don’t have to be huge, they might sound like:
“I’d love to study again.”
“I’d love to move to a quiet place by the sea.”
“I wish we danced more like we used to.”
“I’d love to take off around Australia.”
“I’d love to take time off to write my book.”
A Gentle Conversation
This conversation is a gentle, curious exploration of the dreams inside you both. There is no pressure to drop everything and achieve the dream, or fix anything, instead it’s about giving voice to the unspoken dream, and opening up to connect with your partner, and share part of your inner world.
I wonder what you will discover…
Set the Scene
Find a moment when you both feel relaxed and have a bit of time, maybe after dinner or perhaps on a walk.
Remember, this conversation is about openness and discovery – not solutions, logistics, you don’t need to figure out how to make these dreams happen.
You just need to listen and let them flow.
Unspoken Dreams – 10 Questions to Ask Each Other
Ask each other these questions to help bring unspoken dreams to the surface.
Take turns. Be present. Listen with your heart.
1. What’s one dream or idea you’ve never really shared with me before?
2. Is there something you’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t?
3. What kind of life do you imagine when you picture “ahh we’ve made it!“?
4. If money or time weren’t an issue, what would you love to do for a year?
5. Is there something creative or playful you’ve been putting off?
6. Is there a place in the world you’d love to explore or felt drawn to?
7. What does ‘living in alignment with your values’ look like for you?
8. Is there something you regret not pursuing, and still dream about?
9. What part of your dream would you love for me to be part of?
10. What’s one small step we could take toward a dream – even just to talk about?
Well Done
Dreams bring colour and meaning to your life and relationship.
Sharing them brings closeness and a deeper sense of knowing.
Even if your dreams have remained unspoken for years, revealing them takes courage, and your reward now is deeper understanding, more trust and a stronger emotional connection.
What did you take away from this conversation?
Perhaps you learned something new about your partner? Maybe something makes a bit more sense between you?
Or maybe you’ve even remembered something important about yourself?
